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Aspirational!? I am not.

Aspirational!? I am not.

I’ve gotten some DM’s and some very kind comments glorifying my life, in the most kind of ways, highlighting how they want to be like me. #goals #butno

I’m sorry, I absolutely think you have the wrong person. I don’t say this humbly or to brag. Neither are correct.

I say this because factually that is a very bad goal, for a few reasons.

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First off, you DO NOT want to be like me or have a life like mine.  Not only has my life toppled a few times this past year, I also think that’s a huge problem in thinking.

You should not want any other life than the one you have. And guess what, you’re stuck with that one anyone.  That doesn’t mean you don’t want MORE for YOUR life. That just means you don’t want mine. Or anyone else’s for that matter.

So why crave what you can’t have? Well because of the Pavlov like marketing that has changed us to make us think that the grass is always greener.

See a beautiful picture, want what’s in the beautiful picture, better yet want to become the beautiful picture. Salivate. Repeat.

But, it’s not rooted in what you believe. The realities of that photo are far less glamorous than they appear, and no matter the authenticity of the person, there is still smoke  and mirrors when it comes to anything.

I’m not saying that’s bad per se. But it can be bad when we base our dreams on it.

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I’ve been scouring the internet and diligently doing homework for my course on learning coding, blogging, SEO’s, and all other skills I currently lack and need to grow this business. And I kept looking into the top posts for other successful bloggers.  They all contained content that was so beautiful, that actual copy kind of ceased to matter.

They could have been telling me to buy dog food (when I have no dog) or talking about the amalfi coast, but the image was why I clicked. The image was why I was captivated.

Now, this wasn’t a hard and fast rule. But it was a consistent theme. And much like on instagram, there’s a horrible portrayal of real life.

Those photoshoots are NOT glamorous. Climbing up a tree with bare feet to get that swim suit shot, actually hurts and is not easy. And have strangers stare at you, like you might be actually certifiable also a bit humbling at times.

I think these photos, while I love creating them, need to contain some bit of authenticity about real life. I try my best, to tell you about my struggles, my lows, and when I just don’t feel myself, through whatever medium works that day.

If you only want to see the pretty picture, that is wonderful too. But please, don’t aspire to be anyone but yourself.

You don’t know their struggles, you don’t know their pain, and you don’t want to be inauthentic. And being anyone but yourself, would be exactly that.

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Take inspiration and guidance from others, take cues on how to maneuver life, but stay true to the truest part of yourself. And aspire to be better that way.

Anything else, will be a temporary fad that falls away quickly and insincerely replaced.

Believe in a better you, instead of a different you.

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What do you think of this post? this concept? the outfit! Comment and let me know

eleanor dellers

Thursday 21st of March 2019

i'm obsessed with this photoshoot, and i think you are aspirational. but i totally see why you shouldn't strive for somoeone else's life 👍


Friday 22nd of March 2019

Thank you, and I totally agree!

healther lynn

Thursday 21st of March 2019

I LOVE THIS POST!!! so important 🥰


Friday 22nd of March 2019

Thank you!