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It’s about time, I embrace the new.

It’s about time, I embrace the new.
Finding yourself is what life is all about. At some quasi young age we find something that makes us happy and passionate and we decide THIS IS it.. This is THE thing I need to be; this is THE thing that will make a life worth living. I thought I had that. Designing did fulfill me- it did define me and I was seemingly good at  it.  But, there were a lot of elements within it that stressed me out.  Just watch me on Project Runway and you’ll get the picture.  Actually, no don’t. Just trust me on this one.  After the year I’ve had, it dawned on me to embrace the new parts of fashion I enjoy with the old to create a passion that’s right for me NOW. I loved and I still love designing.  It felt like my home.  However, the way I was doing it was creating stress and brow lines to no end.  If you curious about my design background read this post all about my life. This year has been arguably one of the best years (my son, my health etc) but equally argued it could be equated as the year from hell.  I lost my way when it came to a lot of fundamental life endeavors.  I struggled- to say the least.

But that struggle lead me here.  As recently as yesterday, I was talking to someone in the fashion field and they really felt as though I had found my calling with this site and “content creation”.  They were so supportive and really encouraged me to pursue it further. I’ve received thousands of Dms with people sending love about my new path and I’m not saying that to pat myself on the back, I’m saying it because I never would have considered this before my life fell apart.

 It's about time, I embrace the new.
I might have hypothesized about it- because it was always of interest.. But I would have never justified the immense amount of time and effort to actually DO it. So I tell you my journey because while I love design and would kill to integrate it into my new “job”.  I love this new creative outlet so much and have found a much healthier balance in this integration than I did as solely a designer.  There is stress- but it doesn’t make me have that onset of panic, like I had when I was nurturing a brand/label.  I drag on not to congratulate myself for finding new purpose but to remind you how much TRUE growth comes from struggling and being in a state of flux. When you have nothing or it at least feels that way, then that is the time you have everything to gain. It’s not easy, it’s not fast, but when the smallest light starts to creep in- it really makes it all seem possible.  So have patience with pain.  Have patience with evolution. To change your defining characteristics is not easy- it certainly won’t happen overnight, in a week, or even in a month.  Maybe not even in a year.  But I’m here to remind you that you ARE exactly where you need to be. The hardest growth is personal.  Do the work, be patient and forgiving with the timeline and put your heart and goodness into something. And something good will return.  Maybe not in the picture you imagined.. but it comes in the form you need.

So while I will never not love designing.  I’ve found a new element of fashion that I can passionately and courageously pursue.  Crowded market or not, just look down the bread aisle of a super market to remind yourself there is always room for you to join a space.

In the future I hope to be able to combine my two favorite elements of fashion into one- content creating AND designing clothes.. But I’ll leave the long hours of welt pockets, and bias hem stitching to the seamstresses and find myself in my strengths.  And learn from my weaknesses.
We think destiny calls us at age 18, 21, or even 25… But, to have it all figured out at this age is not always possible. Even at my age, it is not possible and it shouldn’t be. We should constantly be trying to pivot and grow/evolve with our passions. Just because one iteration of it fit our lives, does not mean that this is the finish lines for passions. So I encourage you, if you look at career with stress and constant panic… Then maybe it’s time to force yourself to tear that dream apart. Find the pieces you love and encourage those to flourish. Will stress disappear, no? But will it be more manageable, absolutely. What new path are you challenging yourself to take on? Comment below so I can hear all about your wonderful new adventures!

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Marilyn

Monday 18th of February 2019

Yes! I thought I had it all figured out too. I loved teaching, and that was my passion. It was THE thing. But now I'm having doubts and looking for something else to feel passionate about. It's scary but necessary and doable. Nice read!

Ps. Your form is saying my website URL is invalid. That's odd. So here it is: marilynalicia.com

admin

Wednesday 20th of February 2019

you just need to put in a https://www in front of it, i had a similar experience on others sites- its part of the forms css.

It's wonderful and very scary to have doubts about your career and passion but i've just decided it means there are better things to come. I can't wait to see more about your teaching journey and where you go with it! good luck!!

Jennifer | Me and My Traveling Hat

Saturday 16th of February 2019

It's all about evolving... as years pass our desires and talents are refined. You'll do great in all your ventures with your outlook you have. Here's to your success!

admin

Wednesday 20th of February 2019

thats very kind of you to say. yes, i think evolving/changing passions can be seen as a weakness, but its an important part of growth and expanding your original outlook!

rebecca

Saturday 16th of February 2019

Girl, you were a great designer.. but i think your photos are even better. if you can do both, that will be AMAZING!

And i've just started my own blog, its not nearly ready yet, but i'd love your advice when it is!

admin

Saturday 16th of February 2019

This is so so kind of you. Thank you for being so thoughtful and telling me this. And i wish you the best with your blog, please share it when its ready!

alexis

Saturday 16th of February 2019

love it! also, you might want to check your blog, a few of the posts on the more specified pages seem to be overlapping a bit!

admin

Saturday 16th of February 2019

I'm trying to fix it, but thank you for telling me. I have to fix the css code and i've written someone for help because apparently i keep getting it wrong... BUT you are so kind to let me know!

lauren

Saturday 16th of February 2019

these photos are so so cute. And yes, i totally agree with this post. I just graduated college and i definitely don't have everything figured out... but to me, thats ok for now.

admin

Saturday 16th of February 2019

It's ok to not have things figured out. I think better things come to us when we don't have it "all figured out". So enjoy your life and embrace things that come your way!