We all have those Pinterest boards, or inspiration folders full of styles we love but somehow just can’t pull off. You buy the outfit but it still just doesn’t work for you. You chalk it up to not being skinny, the outfit being outside your comfort zone, or some other “easy” excuse. But I’m here to tell you, all you need to dress better is to learn how to work WITH your body shape instead of against it.
Today we will be exploring the importance of proportions and and what styles work with what body types easily so that you look amazing every day.
We will start off by talking about the most common body shapes. I emphasize that every body is unique and beautiful and that you don’t need to lose weight or change yourself in order to feel better about your style. However, knowing your body shape helps you choose clothes that look better on you.
Female body shape is based mostly genetics and your skeletal structure. While you can adjust your body shape a bit with exercise and hormone levels, for the most part it is pre-defined by your skeletal structure and your predisposed fat and muscle distribution. So work WITH you body shape instead of against it.
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If you struggle with figuring out which body type is your shape- you can measure your hips, waist, and shoulders to get an exact placing. But, I bet most people can tell just by looking in a mirror. Here’s a more detailed guide on measuring for your body type.
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Let’s start with the female body shapes
For my video/visual learners, check out the following video:
Here an overview of each female body shape:
The female body shapes include inverted triangle, Rectangle, Regular Triangle also referred to as pear shape, Hourglass, and round or apple shape.
The Inverted Triangle body shape:
You typically have an inverted triangle body shape if you wear a larger top half than bottom, and your shoulders are more broad than your hips. You also probably don’t have a lot of definition between your waist and hips. Celebrities like Angelina Jolie, Demi Moore, and Rene Zellweger all have an inverted triangle body shape.
Avoid necklines like boat-neck or Bardot, big straps, halter-neck tops, big shawl collars, and larger patterns on your top half. Instead, opt for items that accentuates your bottom half like an a-line skirt or wide leg trousers.
The best pair of jeans that work with an inverted triangle body shape would be the boyfriend jean.
The Rectangle Body Shape:
With the rectangle body shape you wear the same size in tops and bottoms, you don’t have an overly defined waistline, and have a straight shoulder line and hips. It is also called the “athletic” body shape. Celebrities like Kate Hudson and Gweneth Paltrow have this female body shape.
Creating the illusion of a waist will help you with the rectangle body type. Belts around you waist, high waisted trousers, and belted jackets are all great options. You should avoid silhouettes that are too vertical- like a straight jacket with straight trousers which will give you little definition. Softer fabrics can help you, as they look great belted and can draw your eye into your “waist”.
You have a great body type for practically any pair of pants. You can go looser or form fitting, and in fact sometimes body conscious pants can highlight your curves. Mid rise jeans are probably your best bet because they will help highlight your waist more, and don’t be afraid to belt your jeans to add a bit more emphasis on your waist.
Regular Triangle or “Pear Shape” Body Shape
A triangle or pear shaped body is identified by a wider lower half, so you probably have wider hips and thighs and a narrower top half. Celebrities like Kim Kardashian and JLo both have pear shaped bodies. Although Kim K does a lot to convince us she has an hourglass shape, her hips are in fact more proportionally in line with a pear shape.
For this body shape you want to draw attention to your upper half. You can do this by choosing prints or brighter colors for your top half. Wider necklines like boat necklines and sweetheart necklines broaden the shoulders.
You can also layer your tops to add more volume to your upper half. You want your shirts to be the right length. You want your shirts to hit just at the widest part of your hips, avoid extremely long shirts and extremely cropped shirts. (again these are just basic guidelines, not hard and fast rules- think of these as jumping off points, but as you learn your body you can evolve and expand your own recipes for successful outfits)
Also, a padded bra or push up bra can help accentuate the top half, if you are comfortable with them. It is KEY to have a bra that fits properly, no matter your shape. I love Thirdlove for this, as they have half sizes.
Also, you can use dark colors on your bottom half to slim your hips down a bit.
Hourglass Body Shape
An hourglass shape is defined by an equal size in hips and shoulders with a waist that is well defined. Celebrities like Beyonce and Dita Von Teese are famous for their hourglass shape. However, Marilyn Monroe is the most well known hourglass figure out there.
With this body shape you still want to accentuate your waist, because that is the slimmest part of your body.
With an hourglass shape you want to avoid shapeless or baggy clothes that will overwhelm your frame and can even look lumpy.
Hourglass shapes usually come with a more busty figure. If you want to be more modest or minimize your chest you can opt for a boatneck, or scoop neck and avoid high neck tops like turtlenecks.
You should also look for pants with angled pockets, instead of inseam pockets, as they will not tug across your hips as much (which can create unflattering lines). Pocketless pants also achieve this.
Because your figure is already very “feminine” ( I say that in the stereotypical definition of femininity) you can rock styles like a cute flirty dress with sneakers easily. A miniskirt is also a great option for you, to show off your legs.
Peplum tops or Empire waist dresses are also great options- as they highlight your strengths.
Round Body Shape
The round body shape, also known as an apple body shape, is known for a larger upper body than lower body with no defined waistline. This body shape has a slim waist and great legs, but lacks definition from the hips up.
This can be a difficult body shape to initially buy for, as the tendency is to buy things oversized to compensate for the broader top half. Proportional dressing will help this, and we will discuss that in the video below.
But for now, keep your tops and jackets more streamlined and simple. You don’t want to have shoulder details or embellishments that draws too much attention. You want to aim for a balanced look, so that means well-fitted, tailored tops and jackets that are not skin tight.
For dresses you want to avoid body-conscious dresses an opt for a slim fit dress that hits above the knee. Pencil skirts also work nicely with a loose-fit top.
The easiest jeans for your body type is a straight leg jean, as it highlights your fantastic legs, while also defining your waist a bit more. To balance a casual outfit, opt for a looser sweater or top. Because you are missing that waist definition two tight pieces on top and bottom will feel off-balanced and top heavy.
How to dress better using proportional dress rules (golden ratio dressing)
While your body shape is very important, and there are individualized style tips for each and every body shape- your overall proportions are also INCREDIBLY essential.
The rule of thirds is very important. The most visually flattering proportion we have found is thirds. Once you have mastered your proportions and have evolved your style, you can expand these proportions to sixths and beyond. BUT! That is a more advanced skill and takes time honing your style. So for now, remember the rules of thirds.
Here is your body cut up into thirds:
So you should have one third on top, and two thirds on top (like with the below image).
OR you should have 2/3rds on top and one third on the bottom . Never cut your body up in half, it won’t look flattering on any body type.
As you become more accustomed to your body shape your can tweak this ratio and explore it a bit more. But until then, try to always hit the golden ratio for the easiest, most flattering look.
Style Tips to Dress better
Let’s start with a few basics to get us started. This is foundational advice to get your on the right track with fashion.
- Don’t buy or keep something that doesn’t fit. It’s disheartening when you buy something a size too small and then can’t fit into in a week. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Unless you have a tailor on speed dial, skip it.
- Set up a wardrobe with basics that can be used as a foundation to more outfits. Personally, I love trying new fashion trends and don’t believe in confining myself to one style. However, I still have a set of basic pieces in my wardrobe that are timeless and act as supporting pieces for all my “riskier” outfits. I have an entire post for you on how to build a chic wardrobe from scratch (no matter your budget), check it out here.
- Avoid rushing the process. Don’t buy things just because they are heavily discounted, don’t go on massive shopping sprees, and don’t copy outfits exactly. These are all things that will lead to you losing yourself in your style and making rash decisions when it comes to your closet building.
- Don’t give up. I get it can be frustrating when you try an outfit or a trend and don’t get the response you want. But, it can take a few times to conquer a new trend or style. The more you try it, the more success you will have, and in turn the more authority your style will hold.
Because my friends and family know me for my fashion, I can wear riskier trends and not have them doubt them. They have come to know me for my authority in fashion (long before i was fashion blogger) and that comes with more flexibility in my style. While I don’t recommend dressing for other people- I do know that getting criticized or judged on your clothes is devastating, so remember 1. You can’t pleas everyone and 2. Your fashion is about you.
But now, here are some easy style tips to help you with any self conscious doubts. Just as a reminder, any flaws you feel your body has, is not what other people see. I understand it is easy to feel self conscious about your hips or your shoulders or your stomach- but every body is beautiful and I don’t say these tips because I think you need to “fix” yourself. But I say them in hopes you feel more comfortable in your clothing.
How do I look slimmer?
1. Invest in Shapewear; Brands like Spanx and Skims grew into major sensations because they actually work. They help eliminate bulges that can distract from your overall outfit and silhouette. And they can help define your waist, which helps you achieve better proportions overall.
2. Looking slimmer is sometimes just about elongating your body, and in essence looking taller ( think about a lot of runway models). One way to look taller is to wear an all black outfit. This creates a long vertical line and makes you appear both slimmer and taller. Darker hues tend to work better as they have a natural slimming effect.
3. Also opt for a heel with a low cut vamp. What is a vamp you ask? It’s the portion of a shoe that cuts across your foot. So a low vamp would cut across the base of your toes like the below image. This elongates your legs and make them look slimmer.
4. Use stripes as an asset. Vertical stripes are you friend. They once again create a visual line down you body that makes you appear longer. Most people stay away from horizontal stripes because they can be trickier to pull off, but if you have a great horizontal blouse or dress, try it on in front of the mirror and take pictures. Refer back to the pictures after an hour and assess where you can highlight your proportions to help. It could be as easy as adding a belt to your dress or opting for a pair of high rise jeans to have a better thirds proportion.
5. High rise jeans and pants are your friend. Now, you must find a pair of jeans or trousers that fit you- meaning you don’t have to suck in to button or zip them. But when you wear high rise jeans they help elongate your lower half and you appear taller. You want your high rise pant to hit just above your belly button for the easiest proportion hack.
6. Have good posture. Standing up straight helps your proportions and your clothes sit properly.
How do I make my thighs look slimmer?
1. Put your emphasis on your top half, so any eye catching pieces should be above your hips.
2. Try a fuller skirt or a wide leg trouser that won’t hug your thighs.
4. Opt for black opaque tights when an option, as they will have a slimming effect.
5. Heels elongate and slim your legs. Avoid ankle straps and opt for a pointy heel to emphasize this natural effect.
6. Try a Nude shoe (especially heels) which have a natural lengthening effect
How do I minimize my broad shoulders?
1. Emphasize your waist. Any outfit that cinches in at your waist and then flares out slightly at your hips will help minimize the width of your shoulders. Check out the video above for more specific examples.
This may seem obvious, but avoid garments that draw your attention to the shoulder. Large padding in the shoulder, epaulettes, or any other major shoulder design should be avoided.
2. Scoop necks and V-necks will be the easiest neckline to style and minimize your shoulders.
3. Longer necklaces draw your eye down instead of focusing on your collarbone. This helps draw the eye away from broad shoulders.
4. You can also opt for a darker top and lighter bottom, this will slim your upper half and eliminate the appearance of wider shoulders.
If you are going for a tank top, opt for thicker straps or a halter neck. Avoid super skinny spaghetti straps because they will highlight your shoulders and make them appear broader.
5. Avoid strapless or off the shoulder dresses unless you have tried them on and really evaluated their impact on your proportions.
6. Dolman sleeves- because of the slouchiness of this garment and the position of the shoulder seam, it can appear like your broad shoulders are smaller. Likewise kimono style pieces have a similar effect.
Again, these are not hard and fast rules. So don’t limit yourself forever to never wearing horizontal stripes or never wearing a strapless dress. Instead start with these tips, and then as your fashion knowledge and your confidence grows, you can expand past them.
But I don’t have a good relationship with clothes: how to improve your fashion mindset
Ok, so fashion. You probably waft and wane from loving fashion to loathing it. The visuals you present to the world, no matter what type of person you are inside, actually matter. We can’t help it, as much as we are trying to be judgement-free, evolved people our brains make assumptions on a person based on what they look like.
Now, I’m specifically referring to clothes and how put together you look, this does not and should be casually linked to race, ethnicity, religion, or sexual preference.
I am talking about your fashion mindset. I’m sure you’ve head the old adage “dress for the job you want”, which is why we go into job interviews looking put together and professional.
And why we look at women who spent $100 on their outfit, and can view them as more sophisticated than a woman who spent 10,000 on hers. As long as the first outfit looks sophisticated and stylish, the dollar amount has nothing to do with how we are evaluated.
I have a whole post on how to look expensive no matter you budget, you can find it here.
You have less than 20 seconds before a person starts to build a first impression of who you are, and honestly unless you’re a very very speedy talker, you won’t get much out in that amount of time.
But your fashion can tell people who you are, where you come from, and even your values. It is a communication device, and not just a frivolous pleasure.
So how do you improve your relationship with clothes?
First off, start by slowly implementing the style tips and guides above . We want you to feel GREAT in your clothes and be empowered by your fashion choices.
Each item you buy and wear, is a personal choice. It is articulating to the world who you are. And just like with any journey, there will be some misses and some triumphs. Accept that is a process, but one that will pay off extremely well.
Just like with any skill you require, you learn, grow, and adapt as you progress.
What happens if I don’t feel good in my clothes? Or it causes me anxiety to get dressed?
Well, we need to talk about the underlying reasons causing this stress. Is it because you don’t like your body? Or maybe you feel too exposed? Or maybe you’ve had a bad relationship with clothes in the past?
All of these issues need to to be addressed and contemplated with a therapist or outside resource. I’ll list a few options below for some articles that might help you digest those:
However, a huge reason I see people struggle with fashion is they fall into the comparison trap. They get consumed in a social media wormhole and don’t understand why they can’t look like Bella Hadid or Kendall Jenner.
And the quickest way to stomp out your fashion spark is to compare yourself and to not own your own style.
Your style should be your OWN. While taking inspiration from anyone, including fashion bloggers like me, is great; it should only be a guide. You need to let your fashion voice speak for you.
For example, you could have an AMAZING singing voice but by trying to replicate the gritty-alto voice of Janis Joplin you would not showcase your talents, or highlight your unique individuality. Janis Joplin embraced her own unique voice, and was rewarded by a loyal fan base of people who loved her for her talent.
Also remembering the importance of context. Don’t compare your fashion journey to anyone else’s . Celebrities and models have stylists whose literal jobs are to pick the best trends for their body types and make them an authority in fashion. And fashion influencers have probably been crafting their styles for a decade at least.
That doesn’t mean you are behind, or can’t do the same thing. You need to understand it will take time, but that you can be as stylish as you want to be.
The second part of context is dressing for the event or activity. Examine your lifestyle, your goals, or even just what you are doing that day- and dress appropriately.
You wouldn’t wear a ballgown to a baseball game right? Likewise, on a smaller scale you wouldn’t choose sky high heels if you have to chase a bunch of kids around the playground.
Picking clothes that work for your lifestyle, will make this journey much easier. So stop comparing yourself to an influencer at Paris Fashion Week. Even she doesn’t wear that outfit on an everyday basis.
If you need some extra guidance on finding your personal style, I have two resources that will help. One is a style guide that dives deeper into your fashion mindset and gives you some actionable steps on how to improve it. And the second is a 10 day email challenge to help you try some new trends.
I hope this post and supplemental information help you take the first bite out of your style journey. You’ve totally got this, and I’m so proud of you for taking your fashion voice seriously. I can’t tell you how much it changed me as a person, and improved both my self-worth and confidence.
I used to be very insecure, and was rarely the loudest person in the room. But finding my own fashion style and using that as a means to communicate gave me the confidence to be myself and embrace the world. Look at me now teaching people about fashion, that’s how powerful it is. It is your superpower, use it!
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